I also agree, at the risk of sounding arrogant, that there was NOTHING I could have done to stop the crisis.
We often hear how LBS's have made themselves into stronger and better people after having been rudely awakened by their spouses MLC. How, because of all the work they did on themselves, they now live a more authentic and fulfilling life. By doing this, they have not only starved off having their own MLC, but are also leading by example on how to best find personal fulfillment; something their spouses are bound to notice if it is indeed genuine.
So while my MLC wife is certainly dealing with some childhood issues that I am likely unable to help her with, she is also searching for true meaning and purpose in this short trip we call life. Here is where I feel I most certainly could have done better myself, and had some effect on her.
Had I stepped up earlier in the game and led the way by adding more meaning, purpose and authenticity to my life, I firmly believe I could have lessened the severity of, if not even completely prevented her MLC.
Even so, I see no benefit to brooding over this 'failure' now. Like most everyone else, I did my best with the tools and knowledge that I had at the time. Live and learn, and continue to grow from here forward.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
