Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

Bond, I agree about coming up with a plan before we split and to be fair I have actually posted about this already a couple of times on this thread...

I'm going to move back in with my parents whilst I'm still at UNI doing my teacher training and the children will be staying with me 3 nights a week at my parents place (we've even agreed on a rota - which we can be flexible on).

This is not something we haven't discussed at length with each other.

They're going to have to learn that you are no longer a family and that they are going to get used to being traded off.

Yes the children will have two separate families as opposed to one big family and this transition needs to be managed on their timeline, with their feelings and emotions being considered every step of the way.

I think the last part in bold is very cynical and presumptious about how it is going to be for my children.
I certainly won't want them to feel like they are being traded off and would hope that they would look forward to spending time with their dad by me making it fun and as homely as possible.

Just on a lighter note and please don't take offence to this, but when I read your posts I picture Mr Fredricksen from 'UP'.
I don't know why but thought I had to confess and share that with with you

Bill