Beatrice, Just wanted to respond to a couple things that you said that made me think about the whole thing. We had a good marriage as well. We actually talked about it frequently.
I was happy pre MLC. My MLC hit me out of the blue. I sure didnt want it to happen. Sometimes I ponder the question why does it hit some people so hard so that everything is uprooted. There is no answer to that Why question.
Maybe my MLC then was the trigger for my xwifes. Go fiqure but who knows.
It upsets me that my family was pulled apart by this phenomenon but in the end I don't think there was anything I could have done different. To go from a happy, contented person to one full of hate in a matter of a few months still baffles my mind.
If we as a species evolves maybe that is the answer. We are thrown in this internal war with ourselves to make us stronger in the face of things that happen in life. Who knows?
My MLC journey took me from happy, contented to miserable, depressed and then back to basicall the same person but with a few improvements. Maybe that is how its supposed to happen but many seem to screw it up.
My EXW was a wonderful mother for many years as well. Beatrice, I'm glad you can acknowledge the good in him. I think that speaks to where you are.
All the best as your journey continues to healing yourself.
