Wow, that's a lot to digest, but you still seem to be making some progress. He is doing things to help you, which seems to be more than "about the boys". His excuse that he is waiting because you haven't accepted the D is a little weak, and it continues to make you look like the bad guy.
I do think the stress that you've both been under is a major factor in the breakdown of the M but it looks like H is looking to blame instead of accepting reality. At least to your face.
Keep doing what you are doing and maintaining your cool. You can file the information away for when you need it. The lying is very hurtful. I'd rather face the ugly truth than worry about whether or not I am being lied to.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
