Let us know how the coaching session goes. Sometimes they apply to others as well as yourself.
And eyesopen, you do sound very hopeful about Retro. It's hard not to get excited that it might curb her decision. Assume this...
You will both have an opportunity to improve your communication. YOU will learn as much as you can to communicate, not just with W but overall in the future. YOU will be a better YOU!
Maybe...it will take months before she even considers turning around but in that time you will practice what you learn in Retro.
Mending your marriage takes time, lots of time.
Take care eyesopen.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017