You're half right. She came in to the relationship and got comfortable. Once she felt she was secure with you, she concentrated all on her own needs and her kids. Obviously she didn't learn anything from her other marriaages.
She doesn't understand that in order for this to work, she has to put in the EFFORT. Right now she is being totally selfish. Especially since you've been so accomodating. That's why I feel sorry for children who are raised by such an individual.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.