I don't see a problem with MIR's decision to choose the best time to confront his wife about the adultery. it's not as if he is postponing it indefinitely - he wants to use the next 2 weeks to show his wife how great life can be with him; and then he can confront her about OM and tell her his boundaries, as Starsky and Eric described.
after all, he is going to be expecting her to go "cold turkey" (ok, not an "ultimatum" but "expressing boundaries" - but either way he is expecting her to stop all contact with OM) so I can understand that first he wants to show her why being with him is better - so she will know what she is losing if she continues to see OM.
after the confrontation, though, he should follow up on whatever he has told her, e.g. as Eric said:
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I will not be in an open relationship. While you have contact with HIM, I will not be part of your life.
I would then give my partner a period of time (something I would be comfortable with) in which to make a choice. During that time, I would begin the process of cutting all ties. Period - end of discussion.
