Want to show him love but want to give him space too. To me this means not insisting on anything except for showing me the basic respect that I deserve. I realize he's gotta travel his own path right now, so if I respect and accept that, is that detachment? Things improved once I actively started moving towards him.
Yesterday I took S6 to the park and we saw a little boy that we know there. He's 2 or 3. My S didnt pay much attention to him, but we had the dogs and he pet the dogs a little. The kid didn't break a smile or say anything the entire time. He was so serious. When I saw his parents this morning and mentioned it to them, they told me that the little boy was so excited about all of it.
So my point is that you can't always tell what people are feeling by what they do or don't say, or even by their facial expressions. I think that applies to my H. He can be very stoic but still waters run deep with him. I hope what I'm doing is having some sort of good effect but I gotta be ok with the potential reality of him really and truly being done.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page