I would like to say that I understand your terror about being so vulnerable financially and emotionally. I have felt it myself. I haven't had a job outside the home in almost 17 years.
I am a registered nurse, but not having practiced in so long, I would have to take a refresher course and then hope that there would be a job in my area.
Pay rates are lower than average in my state, as opposed to the state I left 20 years ago to marry this man, so I might have to move to get a job.
Just imagining having to put the mental energy into re-learning those skills while raising my children and healing from this trauma scares the heck out of me.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
I value the support I have received here since I arrived. I hope you stay.