And yes the timing of when to confront is going to be extremely critical. Many of my questions here have helped me to formulate a when and how this will happen. As I mentioned there has been some digital contact that I know of between my W and OM, but I have been able to negate all face to face contact which is part of my plan. I am able to influence this for the next 2 weeks after which is when I am planning to confront. This will be after we have spent a lot of time together and after we have shared several trips and had many good times together. The idea is that my W has seen the changes (which she has commented on many things and has changed her actions to/towards me as well…..in positive ways) and realizes that I AM the man she wants to be with.
I am still formulating my approach and what the boundaries will be that I am going to state.
Yes, by all means let the pyromaniac continue to play with the matches and the kerosene for a little while longer, while you "formulate your approach."
