Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

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Hi Arsene,
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply. I'm feeling better now than I was on Sunday.

My disgust with H's behavior has translated somewhat into a better feeling of detachment since yesterday.

H was texting me wanting to know how to best get his initial financial disclosure documents to my A. (keep in mind he filed 18mos ago and has yet to complete these...dragging feet much??) I waited and then replied you might want to send them certified. He wanted to know how I got my documents to them and I indicated I was able to scan and send them.

The funniest part of the conversation to me was when he asked if A was working for both of us now or just me. I did laugh at that one then told him they worked for me. He then said he thought they should help him if his paperwork wasn't right.Just reminded me how really clueless he is about this whole process.

I feel so bad for anyone who has to go through this situation but to go through it with children just seems to magnify that.
I'm sure it frustrates you to no end that your W has no clue (or needs to appear that way) to how her decisions affect your D. My fear, and maybe yours too is that my S because of his age hasn't put all the pieces together of what H is doing. I hope he's able to transition smoothly and it is my ultimate goal to make sure that happens, but I worry the day he finally puts it all together is really going to affect him.

I appreciate your words so much. I hate that there are so many of us going through this but as I've heard time and time again it's nice to know I'm not alone!