Keep breathing...

[mamabird]

Chatterbug - I went back and looked. You predicted a "revenge" EA/PA. This is what my dad thinks too. Could be. I am sure he feels he needs comfort and solace, although now that I know this, I can continue to try to provide it in the form of our nightly cuddles. Will not bring it up until time is right. Not much I can do for now except deal with it.

I think MC is a must, just have to figure out how to get that back on agenda.

Re: detaching and pressuring him- I know I gotta leave him be, but part of his whole issue is that he thinks I don't love him. He thinks I'd rather be with someone else. So by detaching, that's reinforcing that for him. My instinct is to reach out, not pull back. I'm careful not to nag, no one likes that, but I think that consistent loving actions will eventually have an effect. Even if he is having an EA.

I know that I woulda dropped mine in a heartbeat if I'd seen my H turn around and be truly loving. After all, all I was really looking for was acceptance and validation. Even fussing over his nutrition shows caring and concern. He has called me a narcissist in the past so I have that idiotic perception to overcome as well.