Hi Wonder!
I am so sorry that you are trying to interpret "alien speak"!!! (((((WONDER)))))

You have gotten great advice here and I especially second what Lee said (Hi, Lee...miss you! ) about PATIENCE, LOW EXPECTATIONS and HIGH PMA...that should be our mantra!!!

I think your H is very confused right now. He probably sees changes in you but isn't sure what to make of them. I heard many mixed messages from H and I think the way you respond can mean everything in how things progress.

You have done a wonderful job validating and listenting. I love to hear you say that the "old me would have done it this way" but I did it that way...that is progress, my friend!!

Go back and reread the six stages of MLC and see if you can pinpoint H in one of them. I think my H is SLOWLY coming out of the tunnel, but it is too late for our M!!

Keep us posted...you are doing a great job DBing!!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)