It makes his behaviour seem less personal towards me and less like something that he is choosing to be irritating about.
Whether it is ADD or not that kind of thinking - accepting them as they are - is definitely what is helping me to detach. H is H and NOT me in male form. And who am I to say my way is the right/only way? Look how stressed I get when he's not doing what I would do in situation x. I'm the only one with their panties in a bunch. He isn't. It is not my business to wonder why he is doing it/take it personally. My business is can I live w it/do I want that in my life? If not there's boundaries. But I'm going to pick my battles some things aren't worth it.
I see the acceptance attitude is bedding in for you Wendylon cos you let S17 do the toothpicking thing cos that's what he does. When you let go of it - how did you feel? O and even if he does do it to get a rise, he will stop it if he doesn't, so win/win I think.
Hope your headache goes away soon ((()))
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
