Long time no speak, and alot has happen for us both i see.
You may remember, that about 2 weeks before h asked me if he could come home, he rang me up out of the blue and accussed me of having an affair and, through my dbing, we ended up having a 2 hr marathon convo. I think, that your H may be having doubts, but thats ok. Even after my H asked to come home, he would express his feelings in a way that totally disagreed with what he had asked me for.
My H is diagnosed with major depression, h has been on meds for 5 month (which looks like they ay be about to change) and has just recently started a proper treatment plan. I have found that, with counseling, that the patient seems to get worse at first, and question everything. I think you handled it just fine. You listened and validated. You can't do anymore than that.
As long as you are alright, and i know that you trust yourself to be able to cope, not matter what happens!!!
Keep doing what works, keep expectations low, pma high and patience, patience, patience!!!!
How to give this 'space' that all WA's seem to want? I just don't know. I think it's just getting on with your life, so that they know that you are ok while they sort out thier head. I don't mean getting on as in with out them, just allowing them to sort it out and concentrate on themselves without having to worry about you and know that you are in such pain while they examine their life. Or something like that....i don't think i explained that real well!!! LOL.
Anyway, when i get a bit of time, I'll update you on my sitch. In short, things are going well, H wants to be here, so i'll give ya more details later!! Who knows, i might be able to post a 'sucess story' soon!!!
Remember LOW EXPECTATIONS, HIGH PMA AND PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE!!!!!
