Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

[someguy1233]

Your right, listening and validating will get me through almost anything. Note to self, the right tone of voice is very important when validating, it’s useless unless it comes across sincere. Sometimes I become somewhat aloof or passive aggressive and I need to avoid these tendencies.

I should show confidence and an upbeat attitude, smile and be her friend. I need to remember I can always use the statement “That’s a good question, I am going to need to think about that and get back to you”. I truly don’t feel I will need to do much talking. Especially if SHE is the one wanting to have this meeting.

I've recently found validating to be an amazing thing. I've barely said a word in my last to conversations with W regarding our R. I validate, she vomits a bunch of words that I TRY not to take personally, and then the conversation is over.