LA I figured this dynamic out back in the beginning of Sept. It was quite clear from what you were writing. On the 4th of Sept. actually.
Tie in his history. Tie in that he thinks you did what you did to hurt him... How can he hurt you back ?
Yea.
I was waiting for you to figure it out before I wrote to you again.
This is most likely explaining to you all the mood swings , withdrawl , cake eating , anger , happiness.
I am sure you could get a calendar out and start filling in dates and correlate them to his EA's possible PA's
So you now know that your H is as capable of keeping secrets from you as you from him.
Eventually you will both have to come clean. As a marriage needs trust to survive.
None of this holding back because the other cannot handle the truth. That is a cop-out and being dishonest. And if you two do not figure this out. I think your marriage is doomed for failure as you both will continue to repeat your mistakes. And you both will always wonder if you perception is reality.
I would look at detaching again. But keep both eyes open and reveal nothing at the moment until you have processed the thoughts.
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