Thanks for the encouragement. He called last night (only the 2nd time in 2 months) and we had a pleasant conversation. He told me my voice sounded so good, he could tell I was happy. He said I sounded like a completely different person -- which I am. He also said he was proud of me making positive changes in my life and that he wished he could do the same. His voice sounded awful, so depressed and down which is unusual for him. I felt so sorry for him, I think he is in a very bad place in his life. He wondered if I noticed he moved some of his stuff out, I just said yes I noticed (maybe he was waiting for me to bring this up or get a reaction from me). I suspect this may be part of a midlife crisis, but maybe it is just severe depression.
He said he is trying to set positive goals in his own life, but hasn't made much progress yet. I tried to give him encouragement and validated what he said. Overall, I am thrilled he noticed my positive changes and will continue to GAL.
He also brought up again that he still wanted a divorce and asked me how I wanted to proceed with it. He previously gave me the option of the "less expensive and nicer way out (his words)" with mediation, or doing it the "super expensive and difficult route" with lawyers. I told him that my feelings have not changed either and I am sorry he feels this is necessary. I said that going forward with mediation was in my mind saying that I agree to getting a divorce and I'm OK with it. So mediation is out because for me divorce is not an option, and he can proceed however he feels is necessary since this is his choice (maybe I shouldn't have said this, but he brought up the topic and I went with my heart. He seemed displeased but not mad, I know the thought of giving lots of money to lawyers kills him. Said he would do some research and let me know. Didn't sound like he had a plan yet, so I'm taking that as a positive.
Anyway, I was pleased with the call and consider it a positive interaction. Feel like the communication lines are more open, so I'm happy.
M: 38yo, H: 44yo Together:10yrs Married: 6yrs No kids BD 8/15/12 H walked-out 8/18/12
