Well its been a tough but good few days. H disappeared again with OW for 4 days with no contact or anything but I have gotten much stronger and I have set some boundaries with him. I've dove into my book and am making progress. Some of the boundaries I have set so far is: 1. He will keep his laundry in his own hamper and do it himself 2. He must tell me if he is not returning to the house for the night 3. He is not permitted to use my luggage (this may be small but I found out he was using MY luggage that was given to me as a gift to drag his clothes back and forth) 4. I have set up a weekend schedule so that he must take care of his daughter every second weekend, something he has not done since this has started. 5. I am not waiting for him to make supper
I have also started to GAL a bit more - even went out with some girlfriends to a party Saturday night (my mom watched my daughter for me). Have joined a book club and am starting to exercise again.
Its been hard to be "friendly" and nice to him at the moment but I feel alot of anger now, especially after he disappeared again and I was left explaining to D that I didn't know where daddy was. In a way I think I've gone a bit dark on him, retreating to my bedroom after D goes to bed and not allowing myself to be n the same room with him. I've also contacted a lawyer to explore my options and rights.
So I hope this is okay for now, I love him but can't wait for him to come back anymore, its been almost 2 months since he started this EA/PA with this girl and I really don't know if its going to end - he's never been the type of person to have flings so I can't wait to see if it happens or not.
Is there anything I can say to him at this point or is it best not to say anything?
