I've read through most of 5LL now. My thought is that anybody who finds DB should probably read 5LL right away as well.

I feel really confused b/c I feel in this gray area between LRT and needing to do consistent 180's. I feel like I need the detachment of LRT for if I went to far, hurt her too much, and she's just going to be leaving soon but I feel like me having become distant, rather than doing positive 180's, perpetuated the problems.

So far the best I've figured out is to remain calm and non-emotional in regards to her possibly leaving, especially since I went to the extreme and I've given her the ILYBINILWY talk. Then I figure 180's in the right direction, like the nice chat we had after the serious talk last night, and "Acts of Service" b/c it seems that's her primary love language.

I don't know......

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