SS, sounds like fun! Girls night was fun, but I ended up with some kind of seafood poisoning and was very sick all day Sat. Kind of put a damper on the weekend.
Nothing new to report on this end.
I hope the above discussion on depression was helpful. I am so hesitant to give advice, but happy to share what I did that worked and didn't work. I've done many things that didn't work-- but I think the most important thing I have learned is that my ability to handle things improved dramatically when I got serious about taking care of me and healing my own trauma-- his A and the way he treated me was a huge trauma for me-- before trying to support H-- otherwise I was just not helping either of us.
I am thinking a lot about all the positive signs my H has given me that he is serious about wanting to be home, not having any intention of going through with a D, needing to have some time to get his head on straight... and the fact that he does need that time.
But on the other hand... the places I needed to do 180s in our old M included speaking his LLs instead of mine and talking about how I was feeling (he was making some wild assumptions-- he has asked me to tell him how I am feeling). So I don't want to fall into the old pattern of not doing that.
Does anyone have advice on how I can make that balance work?
I have faith that we can make a great NEW R together-- if we both keep choosing to make that happen. My H is responsible for what he does and whether that moves us closer or further apart. And I have my 50% too.
So back to basics... my new mini-goals are:
1. I will launch my editorial business a. land a new project=success b. create my web site=success
2. H will continue to open up with me and relax with me a. H and I have an intimate conversation about OR=success b. H and I will be physically close=success
3. I will continue to support H in his self care a. H will tell me he feels supported=success b. I will see continued forward movement=success
