One of the benefits of being the Vow keeping spouse is that you get to mourn the loss of the marriage in a healthy manor. You get to experience all this grief and loss. Then when you end it. You are helping yourself with the reality and acceptance stages. They picked sex with another person over personal growth. Right now you may still think [censored] to be you. But truly it is the other way around.
You never have to say the words. "My marriage ended because I am a cheater." You are blessed with saying. "My marriage ended. I was cheated on. So I made it into something positive. I worked on myself and became a better man."
The cheating spouse does not get to go through this until years later. And if they never do then it truly is a good thing they are out of your life.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
