Was feeling pretty empty inside most of the day. Then had good conversation with w about Retrouvaille. I think I appealed to her heart. Stated that it would mean a lot to me and there are no expectations for it.
Retro is a great program from what I've read, but it doesn't save marriages so much as it gives you tools to open up communication. Most marital problems can be traced directly to poor communication, so establishing lines of communications is a great first step in healing a sick marriage. But please don't get your hopes up, it's not a one-stop cure for a broken marriage.
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Just that it may be our last weekend together, and it would be nice to say that we spent it exploring the possibility of saving our m and family.
Sounds like you're trying a little to hard to sell it to her. I'd just present it to her as a program that helps improve communications and that it will benefit both of you whether you reconcile or not. That's actually closer to the truth.
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She stated that she doesn't want to lead me on or give me hope. That is when I told her that I had no expectations
But you clearly do have expectations and you expressed them to her!! You really do need to drop ALL expectations of what Retro is going to do for your M and just try to go into it as a blank slate. Those that have been say not to expect any sudden revelation, and not to watch your W for a reaction. It's not about that. It's about working on communication.
