never give up

[learning2listen]

I would like to say that this forum may not have saved my marriage, but then again, maybe it did....


On Aug 15, 2011 my h moved out and we started the rollercoaster of ridiculous amounts of ups and downs..my emotions were all over the page...

I then turned to this site and started to put my emotions on here, rather than on my H...

days turned to weeks turned to months and I just kept living... my H moved away, only a couple of hours way, but still there was now distance. but our communication got better.

In the spring, we started weekly visits, he would come here and the kids and I would go there. Neither of us brought up the D word..

Now that it has been several months and many hours of talking and understanding what actually happened, I can honestly say we are in a better place then we have ever been.

Thanks to Divorce busting, I actually learned there is more involved in listening then simply hearing the words, and MY h is opening up to me in ways he never has..knowing what goes on in his head is enlightening to say the least, and for him to understand what goes on in mine has helped our marriage survive.

We just celebrated 13 years of marriage and I can honestly say I look forward to the next 50... Thankyou to everyone of you on this site, I wish for all the happiness in the world for each and everyone of you!