Azure, you are keeping me on the straight path with your reminder to experiment and see what works. Something I need to drill into my head sometimes. I think I'm doing pretty good with the "why not" beginner's mind, though.
It's not as if H is doing lots of the same stuff, only a few big ones like the pattern of withdrawing and not communicating. What has been hard is balancing that with needed space. One helps, the other does not.
So there are only 1 or 2 things I would want to mention anyway. One thing I was saying to him a while ago was that he was taking out his negative mood on me. Now he points out when he has had a bad day and says he does not wish to take that out on me. And I am starting to get the sense that he avoids me when he is feeling low or having a tough time. Again, I'm speculating based on what he does say and show me.
SS, thanks for pointing out the positives. Always on the sunny side, you are. Helps me SO much to keep my impatience in check.
SO much has changed for the better in the way my H interacts with me...and in his whole mindset and demeanor. I have to remember that.
But as someone said on another thread, I have to keep my life going forward and hope he doesn't miss the train because he didn't look sharp (or because he was dawdling around the station instead of buying his ticket).
