I know I made some DB mistakes but those are my boundaries. I can't allow him to mistreat me in my own home and make my life more miserable than its already been.
I don't think you made any mistakes at all. DB'ing is all about taking stock every few weeks and determining what is and is not working, and making adjustments. Obviously things are not working because you're on the verge of walking yourself, so you took a hard stance and laid down some boundaries. Good job! If I could make one more suggestion, if you're serious about walking then have a discussion with him about that. Reiterate your boundaries and tell him that this is his last chance. Many of us here lament the fact that our spouses didn't tell us anything until it was "too late" to do anything about it, so at least give your H that chance before you totally drop the rope.
