Like Sandi said, do not contact the OW! And let him come get his own mail. Taking it to him is not your job.
Originally Posted By: Snookee
Then I said that maybe I did find someone but he shouldn't tell me what to do....I haven't. Anyway he says that's great.
Don't play games, he'll see right through it. He'll perceive it as you trying to trick him into coming back.
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Thing is I don't want him to think that its great if I meet someone. It seems that he just wants me to though.
DB tip 32: Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because she is hurting and scared.
He wants you to find someone else so that he can feel better about his own infidelity. Just hold yuor course and leave him to his guilt. He may not be expressing it outwardly, but he is feeling guilty inside.
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I'm just so hurt still; its almost 6 months that he dropped the bomb and I haven't had a tear-free day since.
You're having trouble pulling yourself out of depression. Go see your PCP and talk to them about this. You don't have to suffer like this. Counseling and/ or A/D's will get you out of the rut and help you feel normal again.
