well, you can tell I had a lot of caffeine this a.m. telling all my stories.

my H has been scarce as of late... and I have been listening to everyone who says patience. And listening to my gut that says:

1. dropping ropes completely is a dicey prospect for us. a little is good, a lot seems to be not so good.
2. if H says he is scared about what's happened before (previous R attempts), is it a good idea to gently point out the places where H is doing the same things that led to that place (withdrawing)? Or just try to respond differently? Or both? Or nothing?

Our mini-conversation yesterday was good. Has anyone else had experiences where your S seems to pull stuff you've asked for out of seemingly nowhere? Is this a good thing? Should I not even think twice about it?

Did get a call from H this afternoon... very pleasant, in a positive mood and suggested we get together this weekend instead of today. apologized for being busy in the a.m. and not calling sooner. no mention of my little email, but sounded v. good on the phone... upbeat, friendly, joking, considerate. this can't be bad.

Thoughts?

ahh....
wonder