SUPPORT -- emotionally, financially or otherwise . . . NO.
The key is for her to know she's been HEARD, but that she hasn't been RESCUED.
She does need to know you're a better listener than perhaps you used to be, but that DOESN'T mean you then have to take what you heard, and swoop in and rescue her, even if it's just emotionally. Good listening, and then a courteous response of "(Wife's first name), I hear you saying that X, Y and Z are tough for you right now. I get that; this is tough on ALL of us right now. We're each going to have to learn new skills if we're going to get thru whatever lies ahead, and although I didn't wish for this, I am excited about it when it comes to my own personal growth."
