Sandi2, I still do not know if there is a OM. Yes I have concerns but nothing official yet. EA maybe. Maybe I am blind or dense.
Not necessarily. There's not always an OP in WAS situations. There wasn't in mine. At least not a physical one, although many suspect in the absence of a physical OP there's likely an imaginary one. IE, they think if they leave they can find "true love" and they have a picture in their mind of the Prince Charming that's going to sweep them off their feet.
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The counselor says it is a MLC. She has been home for 13 years and now has decided that she is not happy. Wants to get a job out of the house, financial independent, freedom from marriage. Doesnt like our lifestyle, which is new to me. Everyone says we have the perfect life. Which she says now makes her sick when she hears this.
Yup, ditto that in my sitch. Except in my case W has always had a job. We've been married 20 years, together 5 before that, there were indications as soon as a few months before BD that she was still madly in love with me yet at BD she said she's not happy and hasn't been for "years". She wanted freedom and she even made a similar "lifestyle" comment- even though we've always done everything together she suddenly decided our interests were incompatible, LOL! After moving out she spent a brief time partying it up, but now seems to be returning to kid and family activities.
