We can ONLY learn from our MISTAKES if we MAKE them. So you THINK you screwed up. Fine – learn from it and do better next time.
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Today, my W insisted on pushing a button about seeing my phone to "check the settings".
Let me know if you see something here….
“Today W insisted on pushing a button” OR
“Today I allowed my W to pushed my button”
Do you notice the difference in the above statement? Or this…
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She knew this was pushing my buttons, but kept doing it.
VS.
“I knew that I kept allowing her to push my buttons”.
See any pattern?
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I finally got upset and said that we've all seen her text messages to the person she is "in love" with
Do you know why you said this to her? I do…just wondering if you do.
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..Needless to say this did not go over very well.
Trying to have a sane conversation with someone in a crisis…usually will not go over well. Hence, detach..detach…detach…
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She's admitted that this OP is her "Soul Mate/connection for life"
Yep she FEELS that way NOW…who knows how she is gonna feel later. The more you try and PULL her to you or get HER to agree with YOU…the more she will pull away. You cannot reason with her RIGHT NOW.
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She wanted to discuss the contract, but then backed off with this week should be for my mom and our family. I said some sarcastic things like, I did not understand why she was hanging on me and saying she loved me because it was very confusing. She went on to say, "Don't you see that I'm supporting you"?
Kinda messed up trying to have a convo with a crazy person isn’t it? BUT a lot of time we still do it. I found DETACHMENT mixed with a strong glass of STFU worked best for me….then again that was only after I heard a lot of the same (MLC Script) stuff that you are hearing. I think the only thing that was not my fault was global warming…wait…no..I think that was my fault to according to my XW. Ignore her Sam.
Sam, right now you need to ignore her as*. If possible I would ask her to leave to be honest with you. Do you have an older sister? Maybe she can ask her nicely to GET THE F*ck out. Seriously though, you need to be there for you family and TOTAL ignore her. YOU do not need to be afraid of what you say. Right now…this time is YOURS not hers.
(((hugs))) ….you can do this Sam…you really can.
Quick story…..
Have you ever seen a lion when it is wounded?
When it is wounded is separates itself from the pack?
It steps backs and heals itself?
So that…it can come back STRONGER?
Be that Lion Sam….take a step back, lick your wounds.
You will come back BETTER and STRONGER if you do.
To do this though….the LION DETACHED from the pack.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
