Yeah, I know you are right on this one mate. I guess when she opens up about her feelings in convos, I feel I need to show her I can listen and understand what's she's talking about. Mind you, we've had quite a few of these talks lately and I seriously need to make myself less available.

I remember reading somewhere in Denver's sitch how he struggled with the fact that if HE was not the one there for her, OM might be the one she turns to for that. I guess i feel a bit the same way. It seems to me that she's been filling a need by coming to me to open up and talk. My W has always been one for deep meaningful convos and I have a feeling that OM isn't quite up to the task.

I guess I just answered my own question. If he isn't up to the task (and this is purely speculative based on the few text messages and FB comment I've seen from him), then she won't be able to turn to him, will she?

I know. It's grand time I took a step back, gently. Make myself busy and limit our interactions.

Thanks Starsky.

Freshman Class of 2012

M-49
W-42
1D-10
T 10 YEARS
M 9 YEARS
EA/MLC 07/2010
Separation 28/05/2012
PA confirmed 31/07/12
W Asked for D 31/07/12
D on and off the table since then