Realistic Optimist Hard At Work

[AnotherStander]

Two days ago W asked me if I could or would take 5,000 out of my investment account to pay off a few high interest loans at the shop.
I was taken back by this question and only responded with a "i will have to think about that".
She is the one who after all was worried about buying a 400 blender together and deciding who would get it if we split. So why all of a sudden would it be any better if I were to take money which was pre marriage, and partially a gift from my parents and put it into the business to pay it back as it can...

I sorta feel like WTF why would you ask that but at the same time the business has been paying for my health insurance even though I don't work there anymore.. so I sorta feel obligated...

Thoughts?

That's a tough one. I guess it would depend on how much 5k is to you, to some people it's nothing and to others it's a huge sum. If it's a lot of money to you, then you need to evaluate the risk/ reward. The risk side would be evaluating the chances you'll never get it back, the reward side would be whether you earn interest on the payback (I would hope so). Look at the two and decide if the risk is worth the reward.

Also been reading ILYBIBILWY on my kindle, GREAT book!! I really think that if my W read the book it would help.. But that could just be the optimist in me?

I don't think it would help right now, maybe later. When I read Michele's chapter in DR about the WAS I thought "wow, surely this will resonate with my W". I found a copy of that chapter online and emailed it to my W. If it had any impact on her she sure didn't show it. That was before she moved out, so things certainly got worse after that although I doubt it was due to that. I'm just saying it didn't help any either.

He said that he wants to make sure that W can keep talking to him but he felt compelled to tell me that W made the statement while in tears " I am afraid that if I leave him it will be a huge mistake".

That's a great baby step, but don't mention it to W since it was told to you in confidence. Just celebrate it inside and keep plugging along with your 180's!