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Originally Posted By: Tumbling
Infact I misquoted one of his text which was longer
Night Night, Tumbling. Warm and dry - thank you. How are you feeling? (12words Wendylon!!!!!!)


I like that smile Let's keep track of number of words. I'd love to see him using more than you!

Originally Posted By: Tumbling
My attitude has definitely changed
I am so detached I seem to be floating in my leanbackedness
He didn't engage re music downloading.
I haven't prompted and its 2200hrs here.
I'm not bothered


Now that is really impressive on your part. Big round of applause!! That really does show great leanbackedness. You should be proud of yourself!

Originally Posted By: Tumbling
I am 95% well so I am going swimming at 0630hrs


I'm really pleased you're feeling better and impressed about you plans to go swimming so early. You are GAL big time!!


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Just for laughs Wendylon

Last night me (night x = 1) him (night night x =2)


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Now we're doing algebra! OMG!

Tumbling you are too funny.


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Thought I would switch dynamic and text this morning
Me (10-x)0753hrs H(20+x)1949hrs
He is definitely only choosing/able to answer in the evenings

Wendylon - result!!!!! - 20 words....
This is great monitoring

He wrote
Hiya. Rain stopped and getting cold. First snow of the yr visible on the high peaks. Very busy day today! x

I don't think it needs an ansa...
I know it's not about us but we are conversing

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You've made me day, Tumbling. I'm really excited.

And you're right, his text doesn't need an answer.

You could start counting the time between texts too. You could wait at least 12 hours before you send your next one since he waited nearly 12 hours before replying to yours. I know it's petty but it's certainly measurable and I'm pretty sure that longer texts and shorter intervals before answering=progress.

It shows more effort on his part and that's what you want.


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Originally Posted By: Wendylon
You've made me day, Tumbling. I'm really excited.

Do you get out much Wendylon? ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ LOL!

Ok I am leaning back NOW (12hrs). I promise.
I have noticed that I "call" and he "answers"
I want to see if he can still "call"
I don't know why I want to try this experiment - but I do.

Right now, I feel like it's my turn and I want to miss a go,so to speak.

12hrs here I come - may be even 13!!!
Thanks so much for keeping me off the ride smile

PS I don't think he purposefully waited.
I think he's busy with this project and will be working at least 12hr days. He will not be allowed to have his mobile "on" while he is working so will have seen my text when he switched it on, off site.


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I really like the sound of your experiment. Go for it!

I believe you when you say that he didn't purposefully wait. It all still holds though--on purpose or not.

You're right: maybe I don't get out enough smile


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Tumbling and Wendy,
I'm so glad you two are finding useful and humorous ways to track progress.
It made me snicker to read your posts.
Keep up the good work!

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12hrs & counting
Complete silence since his last one
I'm going to leanback
Interesting experiment

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Tumbling, I assume we're in the same time zone so it must be at least 16 hours by now since H sent his last text. I'm curious to know what's happened.

I love the idea of him checking his phone and being surprised and disappointed that there isn't a text from you and then feeling pleasure and relief when he does receive one. It would be nice for him to notice and acknowledge to himself that he appreciates the convos as opposed to taking them for granted.


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