I totally understand what you are saying Newman. I took my R for granted with H. Never thought I would be in this position. I've got to say I've thought about leaving myself quite a number of times over our marriage of 28 years. There are always frustrations and disappointments in life. I'm really glad I found this site and have learned so much from DB philosophy and many other quality books I've read. I really understand more about the dynamics of a marriage and am finding that the more I trust and put into practice the more I am rewarded. It works for all R's not just a M. Sounds like you've got the right balance with the R of your sister and W.
I've had the dream too and its hard to shake it off. I'm in a pretty good place with H at the moment, however I still feel anxious and cautious. Need to work more on myself I think...try not be so fearful of change and being without a partner. I'm feeling positive about our R but I am not in control of what H will do nonetheless.
Keep believing it will work Newman...I believe we manifest our thoughts and as everyone here says, if our M's cannot be saved we are better people as a result.
