Kicking a$$ and taking names!

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RH,
Love the name on your new thread. We as LBS's need to be tough at the lowest times of our lives! I believe it was J3B that said "you don't know how tough you are until you have to be". Hang in there.

I have learned so much from you and all that have posted on your sitch and i agree that you need to pull back and allow your h to go this journey alone. Here is where you need to have faith in the vets and DB principles even when it is opposite of what our heart is telling us. My sitch is a fair bit different in that my W does not know what direction she wants to go but i have taken the attitude that i am willing to take a break from the M and allow her the space to "discover" herself even if that is contrary to everything that I want. You said it all when you said

"I don't want him back as he is now. I want a different him, and he's not that person any more." (i still cant figure out how to add a quote like others do????)

That is your goal. Allow him the space to make this journey and hopefully come out the other side in some resemblance of who he was. But you will be and already have become a better person. It will be your choice to take him back if you choose....

Be strong