Thanks guys! AT, what do you mean by a great base? Are you talking about a foundation for the conversation, setting the stage, so to speak? BTW Denver, I have your “I need to get back to you” comment ingrained in my head. I actually used it last week when W and I had our brief conversation, it was very helpful! I never ended up getting back to her but I am sure it’s water under the bridge by now.
I have a positive attitude but I am going into the conversation with the mindset that W is wanting/planning divorce. I would never say that to her, it’s just my way of processing things. I know it sounds odd but it actually helps my PMA and it keeps my expectations in check.
It looks like were meeting at noon this Wednesday. Going to lunch isn’t a requirement. Your right though, a location needs to be decided. I was initially thinking we would sit in one of our cars, a bit low class?
I might get a little sh!t for this but we met at a restaurant/bar 15 minutes from here. I had to add the "restaurant" part I am considering proposing that location but I think it would be WAY to nostalgic and over the top. It would be obvious that I wanted to prove a point if I chose that location. Should I propose the idea anyway? It’s casual and they have good food.
I could invite her over to OUR house, the one I currently live in, the one SHE moved out of? It’s close to my office so I could just let her know I was going home for lunch. She wouldn't be a complete stranger to her old house. She stops by to drop off the kids and not to long ago she spent some time with our dog and picked some flowers from the yard. I could stock the kitchen with some good lunch foods? I would have the home field advantage you talked about.
There’s a restaurant by my office that serves good pizza and that’s W’s favorite food.
There’s a lot of parks around here so that might be another idea? As I just mentioned, I don’t think “lunch” is a requirement but I am looking for your opinion. It doesn't take much for my W to cry so that’s one of my hesitations with meeting at a restaurant. I feel she’s more likely to express herself if we’re not in a restaurant setting, but I am open.
Haaa, I just threw out a lot of options. Hopefully I can get some input between now and then because I want to be prepared.
__________________________ Freshman class of 2012 Me(M):38 W:43 Together: 15 Married: 11 D:5 S:8 W wanted separation 5/5/12 Stopped living together 5/5/12
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”. Thomas Jefferson
I am considering proposing that location but I think it would be WAY to nostalgic and over the top. It would be obvious that I wanted to prove a point if I chose that location. Should I propose the idea anyway? It’s casual and they have good food. 
