Life as an Authentically Living LBS.

[LoisB]

So here's a question. The OW, in my case, is super controlling and easily threatened. Surprise, Surprise! I think this is why I've resented her so much because I know she has been calling the shots on all this pain the kids and I have had to survive.

Now, this questions will reveal the newbie that I am. How come the spouse can't move back in and become the controlling person in the relationship?

From what I hear,in my case,the OW collects disability for some emotional issues. So, won't this instability be a turn off at some point? Won't H, in his current bizarro frame of mind, want someone leading the way who is somewhat stable and rational.

If I was bonkers, I'd hope I'd gravitate toward someone I trusted, someone who personified stability. Isn't that just a basic law of Physics? that crazy energy seeks stable energy? Why not in this case?

Seems like H, deep in the throes of an MLC, should be easily manipulated and controlled. And, since I know this guy better than anyone, why can't I find the magic formula that makes him at least move back in our direction?

Heather