I can learn from it but I sm so tired of [censored] up all the time -- no matter what I do she just pulls further and further away
I walked in your shoes Sunny. Many of us here have.
I know something that you haven't had the experience with yet.
What snodderly mentions is absolutely true. You didn't break her. You can't fix her. And you should NOT waste your life waiting for her. Not to say don't stand for your marriage, but how you do it is important. And part of that is to not just say screw it and run for the hills and nearest bar/woman. That wouldn't be you and you would regret that.
But you don't want to be a doormat either. Be the man you are meant to be with/without her around. Be consistent and be sure of yourself. Let her figure herself out if she can. If she cannot, you cannot help anyway. Revert to being consistent and sure of yourself. If that doesn't help, be consistent and sure of yourself.
Be still and know...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
