Here we go again...

[ericmsant2]

I've sadly been through that with her and know her patterns/behaviors.

And she knows that you know her behaviors….

I'm not sure how to bring up the parenting plan with out sounding like I'm trying to start planning how to separate.

You do not have to bring up a full blow parenting plan…maybe just book a few weekends for yourself and then let her know that you will be busy and COULD she watch the baby.

I've felt like I had to spend every minute researching divorce, parenting, and DB. I was talking with my sister last night and she nailed it... The answer isn't in this computer. No ammount of Googling will fix my situation. It's time to go do things for me. I started to yesterday. Son and I spent the day with my parents. We went shopping, helped winterize their camper, etc. I need to allow myself time for reading R books, etc. But spending all my time focusing on it and reading a book 2 days faster isn't going to magically fix this situation.

Separate doing for YOU and being a DAD. You also need to “me” time..so do me a favor can you list 3 things that you want to do for strickly you and when you plan to do them.

When I got up I passed her in the hall and said, "'morning!" with a smile. She glared up at me and said, "yes. it is." as she stormed by.

Maybe try not saying a word to her. You may be coming across as if you are acting, which is not what you want.

I guess in an odd way, I don't realy care. I didn't even have the desire to ask why she was mad... nor did I think it would be a good idea even if I did care to.

Gonna come a time when you really do not give a chit. It’s okay to not really care about why she was mad. Really this is what she wanted, if she’s mad because if it, nothing you can really do about it except stay out of the way.

She changed her Facebook timeline cover today. It was one of my favorite pictures of her stepdad and I with S. Now it's a picture of some building by a bar.

This hurts surprisingly more than I think it should.

If it didn’t hurt I would be surprised. Look ignore it dude, she is doing what SHE feels she needs to do. Don’t even spend any time trying to dissect it..”did she do it to show me”…”is she trying to send me a message”, “does she want me to say something”…if you are thinking like that, change it. It really is a waste of time.

She's barely speaking to me now. I've stopped bringing up any conversations that don't have to do with our son.

Yep…she will continue to pull back. You may want to pull closer but I suggest not to. She just may be testing you to see if you are going to pursue her. I would not. Detach…detach…detach..

Chin up bud!

Eric