"Trouble is, once they have externalised the crisis it feels as if all restraints are off, and everything comes pouring out. They are then like a child who has had an enormous tantrum, and doesn't know what to do next. They lack the resources to sort things out [if they had the resources they wouldn;t have had a MLC] and so many of them remain stuck, with some awful OP who encourages all the most destructive parts of the personality.
They seem to choose an OP who plays to the shadow part of them . . . ."
I really like this quote. My H's OP is covered in completely in tattoos, collects disability for some emotional issues, is a chronic marijuana user/alcoholic and has had serial affairs. I really agree that he found someone who can encourage the most destructive parts of himself as opposed to me who is "just the nagging wife."
Trying to back off now so he can experience the full impact of what and who he has chosen.
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
