Snookie, back away from him and leave him alone. Your emotions are controlling you right now and they aren't making you very attractive to him.
If he wants his mail, he knows how to get it. Don't find excuses to contact him. Every day you can go without contacting him is another day closer to him returning to you.
Leave the OW alone. It sounds as if they could break up soon (if you will stay out of the way). She isn't your real problem. And each time that you attack her, it makes you look like a she-devil from hell! Let her hang herself. That is not how to get him back. Drop the rope you have tied to him and GAL. Time and distance is the game plan.
Please protect yourself from getting STD! He is having sex with another woman.....who knows how many she's had sex with!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
