I should add that I did talk to my H about the insurance thing. Left him a message to call me about it and he did. I was still feeling hypersensitive and when I started to explain how I felt, his reaction really surprised me: he was instantly irritable with me. I didn't know what to say so I was silent.
I was finally able to explain myself better, used lots of I statements and explained that he wouldn't know how I was feeling if I didn't tell him (something he'd asked me to do at one point). He agreed. He said OK. And that was that.
I later sent a brief email thanking him for being understanding, which he was in the end, and acknowledging that I was feeling uneasy about my own house finances and letting that get in the way.
No response at all to the email. And this weekend we did not make plans to see each other.
