I'm glad you went and had a good time. The best thing you can do is live your life to the fullest and take care of your son.
Well, I hate to say this, but she is a mother and she does have some responsibilities in the raising of your son. If she's not working, she should be more than happy to be home to great your son in the afternoon and help him w/his homework. This is called responsibility and she doesn't like it...however, you have responsibilities as well and you have to have some time to do let off steam and get back on track in order to keep things on an even keel.
Okay, if your going out was to try to control her, learn from this lesson and move on. Just remember, if you make plans for yourself and/or for yourself and your son, you stick to them unless it is an absolute emergency that you are required to change them. Your wife is a grown woman and knows how to pick up the phone and arrange for a sitter.
As for the holidays, it sounds to me like she's trying to make sure that she has plenty of free time to party and have a good time. She doesn't realize how precious the time spent w/your child is. But, that's her loss. Make plans for the holidays and go and have fun.
Leave this woman and her crisis in God's hands. Turn your back on to you and your son. Your w is now a rebelling teenager and will not be landing back on earth for quite some time.
I can learn from it but I sm so tired of [censored] up all the time -- no matter what I do she just pulls further and further away
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
