Here we go again...

[someguy1233]

I'm sorry to make you anxious SG it's not my intention. You need to be prepared for the possibility of OM and if that is a deal breaker for you. Of course you know your W better than we do. Having said that here is what caught my attention.

I got home from work and she made dinner for the three of us. She briefly asked how I was doing, "I said I was doing good, all things considered." she said she was doing about the same. We played with our son and got him to bed. She left to meet up with a friend from high school that she hasn't seen in years. I'm still so confused how we got here again. Two nights ago she snuggled me on the couch. The day before that she said we needed to spice up our sex life and initiated sex. Two days ago she talked about how we (together) would discuss sex with our son when the time came... All things for the future. I'm so lost._______

Do you know for absolute certain that she met up with a friend from H.S? To me that seems strange and out of the blue. Her telling you that you need to spice up your sex life and initiating sex could be her way of throwing you off the trail if you know what I mean. How often has your W ever talked to you about your sex life like that? The other red flag was when you came home and she was in pajamas telling you she was going to her girlfriends to spend the night. That to me doesn't sit well and girlfriends will stick up for each other. SG I hope I'm dead wrong because I know the pain all to well. What does your gut tell you? My gut told me something was wrong and I ignored it and it was right twice. I gotta get back to work. Check in with u tonight.

Thanks for the follow up, I appreciate it!

I can see how these things could be signs of there being OM. I'm not trying to brush the possibility under the rug, but my gut honestly tells me there isn't a OM. I've been down that road with her in the past and none of the past red-flags are present. I *never* told her what those red-flags are either... Once you've been through a situation with OM I think you're always on the look out for those red-flags.

I still check the car for odd receipts, CDs, things that are different. Clothes, etc. used to be a huge tip-off as well. I haven't seen any of that going on.