I think he's wanting to do something helpful. It will help you but, more importantly, his children. I don't think there's a boundary issue here with coming to turn on the gas. And he shouldn't feel it's pursuing unless there is some. Sounds like you gave him an out but he wants to do something nice.

Calls for gracious acceptance, IMO.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing