Here we go again...

[someguy1233]

I know SG, I understand. There’s no way around the pain, other than going through it. Personally, I’ve had to deal with an affair and anxiety. Back to the FB thing, a lot of it has to do with self-preservation. I know this might sound a bit odd but I view it as snooping, in a quasi way. It all depends, if you feel the intel is important, go for it. I take a strong stance on this subject because my W did a lot of questionable things when it comes to FB.

I can now look back to the beginning of our separation, when we lived together. I would have done a lot of things differently. I didn't go out on a limb because I didn't want to stir the pot over an array of issues. I believe your reading some books, which ones? I am sure it’s posted in your thread but what are some of YOUR shortcomings and what’s W’s biggest complaints?

I'm currently re-reading DR. I plan to read How to Win Friends and Influence People for myself.

I can tell you want my W's complaints were during our last go-round 6 months ago. This time she refuses to talk about what the issues are. She said we've been through this cycle enough times and that there's no need to rehash why our relationship doesn't work.


Complaints last time (and current status):
*I Didn't help out enough with S (I changed and do now)
*I Didn't help out around the house enough (I changed and do now)
*Stop making her feel guilty for going out with friends (I failed at this)
*Participate in her activites such as Yoga, exercise, vegan conventions/outings (I failed at this)
*Check in on her feelings towards our sex life as they needed improvement (thought I was doing ok, but believe I didn't follow up on this enough)
*Do things for me to become more interesting such as read, go out with friends more, etc. (I failed to do this)
*Talk about or relationship more (I failed to do this)
*Get up with S more often when he wakes in the night and do it willingly (I got a little better at this)