And another goal met... my H spent the night last night. He initiated this visit.
Was lots of casual talk. no R talk. lots of physical affection. I had texted him the night before and he mentioned liking that.
I made breakfast and we hung out for a while. H was smiling a lot... this I like to see.
One not so positive-- H had great difficulty sleeping and seemed a little uncomfortable in the a.m. We still are getting used to each other again in some ways, that's clear.
I did tell him I was not going to push him on R talk but that I was here when he was ready for that. He thanked me for that.
Overall, he is seeming much better, more relaxed with me. He looks much better too.
This all seems pretty positive so far. I wish he'd come out of the cave of needing his space sooner though... this is especially difficult for me because of how much more he's shared at other times.
But I am keeping faith that he'll get there. How long does this kind of thing tend to take? I want to be sure he has space if he needs it, but also want to be sure I am not withdrawing or miscommunicating... or overdoing it.
What a balancing act this is. Any and all advice on this is very appreciated!!
Still not sure what's going on with the dog...H is in his new apt. (doesn't seem to like it there). I suspect the dog is not all that is still at OWs but he's not mentioned anything about that. I am thinking this is his deal to figure out and I should stay out of that end of things... is this reasonable?
