Edward, I think the most encouraging statement I could say to you is that your M can be saved. Don't give up. You have a lot to learn about what your W is going through. If you have not read the article here on the home page about the WAW Syndrome, please do.
She feels and thinks differently now. You will have to deal with her differently. First thing you have to realize is she is not the same person you M. She feels "done" with the M. She probably won't want to go to seek help from anyone. She won't have a desire to work on the MR.
Read Divorce Remedy ASAP.
Come here every day to read and to keep us updated. Don't vent to family & friends.....do that here. They won't be objective, but we will.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!