Thanks, Arsene, for your take of my H's question. I wished I had thought of the "turning the questions around" bit. I'll try to remember that for next time.
Since my H's moving out in 3 wks and since he's recently ended comm w OW (except at work)and I looking for fill "the void" he might be feeling for communication.
He & I talk regulary- R talk. Not easy--in fact, I would say brutally honest on his end.
Anyway, about a month ago I tried to comm w him via email (something I never did before) and he was not open to that. But since the sitch has changed AND he formerly emaile HER a lot, I thought MAYBE (optismistically)that he might be okay w comm w me now via email. I gave it a shot & sent the first email I've sent in a while, so we'll see.
I am worried that for the past 4 months since he dropped "the bomb" we have talked regularly and openly but now that he is moving out the sitch changes and so opportunity for talk is going to be more limited. Plus I don't feel it will be right for me to call him (unless it's about the kids).
I could use some advice from others who are separated how they handled things. I just don't know how being separated can bring us close. (He says he needs to go so maybe he can stay.) He's so "lost" and confused that he's even convinced me that the only way for him to figure things out is if he leaves. I just think it opens the door for him to decide to start comm w OW again.
I hate that our boys are going to have to go through their dad leaving and not living with us (even though he will see them every day). Any advice how to handle the kids? ...what to say/ not say when we tell them?
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
